When I was in college my roommate, Gloria Tata, called me Magpie. I didn’t understand why at the time, having only associated the word with that of a large, black, squawking bird.
At 5’1” and 90 pounds, fair skinned and red-haired, I didn’t see myself as a crow anymore than I saw her as a Po-Tata, a nickname that sprang to mind but was never uttered because I instantly censored it as knee-jerk, uninspired, and possibly used as a tag to taunt during her school yard years.
Instead I simply changed the inflection and called her Ta-Ta, as if saying “so long” or “goodbye” whenever greeting her.
I first met Gloria one afternoon at the Wayne State University Student Union in Detroit after buying the last piece of pie, cherry, my least favorite, just before a cafeteria worker put out plates of blueberry, my pie of choice. The place was so packed it took a while to find a seat, and when two were finally vacated, Gloria plopped down beside me, each of us spying a preferred pastry on the others tray.
“Trade?” we said, simultaneously. It initiated both our friendship and a series of subsequent exchanges. We liked each other’s winter coats better, so we traded. We like each other’s watches better, so we traded. We even traded boots, bangles, and binoculars – mine being more compact to her large lug-arounds.
At the end of the semester I was ordered to find other lodgings as retribution for missing my 10 o’clock curfew at the dormitory one night and awakening the dorm mother by howling like a desolate dog. It was just as well. I felt suffocated living on a hallway of freshwomen who joined ranks to form instant cliques concentrated on rushing various sororities.
Fortunately, a two room plus bath unit opened up on the third floor of the only independent apartment building left standing on campus that I happened by at the exact moment the superintendent placed a For Rent sign in the lobby window. Knowing I couldn’t afford the place alone, I signed on the dotted line, certain of Gloria’s willingness to join me. She did.
Gloria looked remarkably like Marisa Tomei (who wasn’t born until December of that year so, technically, Tomei would come to look remarkably like Gloria). She was a straightforward, high-spirited girl whose only college aspiration was to find a man to marry – which she did within a matter of months. Never mind that he was a much older, slovenly, heavyset biker. To Gloria he complemented her newly acquired black leather jacket, ankle tattoo, Chantilly perfume and Chiclet gum-smacking act.
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Thanks for finding me. Do come back!
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We have a huge family of Magpies here in our garden….from now on I will always think of you when I’m out there chatting to them. Lol. xxx
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This made me LAUGH out loud! I feel the same way about you when I see a bloated cow and have ever since we became friends. Truth!
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Hmmm. I shall have to think of an altogether new name for you. It won’t be easy.
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Just as well. Because I’m not easy!
Grin.
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It seems like people only bestow nicknames on people they care for–you are clearly beloved! .
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What a lovely thing to say, Susan. Well, true or not, I feel loved by all of them. Thank you.
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Wonderful blog post hunny!! Love your take on things 🙂 Xena is a nickname I magically acquired one night at karaoke from my bff..LOL, and it stuck – I loved when my dad called my Sauny.(he passed away in 2010)..like a short version of Sonya, my Uncle still calls me that, and after my sister was born, I became Sissy to my dad for years 🙂 I love the way you can look back on things and find the good in them 🙂 ((hugs))
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They call nicknames terms of endearment for a reason – surely You were your dad’s crown of glory. It’s wonderful you have that to treasure with his memory. I bet he was a great dad. Thanks for letting me in on that.
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Thanks for the invite!
Claudia
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Enjoyed the read Marguerite……thanks for letting me know you even had written a blog……
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Well, Marge U Rite, what a great first blog!! Looking forward to many more from you and thanks for sharing the Wayne State experience. Being from the Detroit area too I can picture WSU as it was back in the 60’s. Now, best to stay away. Sorry you’re having trouble with our fb gestapo. Hopefully they’ll back off soon!! Peace and love, my friend.
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I can’t even imagine what changes must have taken place in the last 50 years Kay, but if it’s like most places, remaining in memory is the only way to go. Thanks for your thumb up. Xo!
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Welcome to the blogosphere, Magpie. Let’s share some blueberry pie. Bravo!!
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Say the word blueberrybird, and I’ll be there with bells on and ice cream in tow. Always love seeing you in cyber! Thanks.
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Always enjoy your witty writing, Marguerite! Thanks for sharing. Look forward to reading more. Quite a following for your first blog!
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Kind hearts and coronets, Michelle. Glad you enjoyed it. Still, will always try to do better!
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Enjoyed so much your blog Marguerite, you always know how to put a smile on my face. Looking forward to the next one! Si, Redheads ROCK!
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Can’t think of a better compliment than being part of your smile. Thanks for sharing that with me.
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Beautifully written and lovely story!! Keep up the good work my dear friend “Magpie”!
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Your words feel like a big hug, Deb. And right back at ya!
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wonderful blog! Now I’m gonna spend some time thinking up a new nickname for you! xxxx
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BIG GRIN!
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Love this post! Great first entry. Name calling is indeed a fine art, depending on who is doing the honors. Nicely done – and brave! There’s no flippin’ way I would tell anyone my family’s nicknames for me. 😀
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I might have left out a few family jabs, Cheyne, but (basically) can’t complain. Thanks for the thumbs up!
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Great blog. Thanks for writing and sharing. Looking forward to more!
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Always like to have a fellow Libra as part of my balancing act, Carol. Thanks!
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Great story. I look forward to reading many more!
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Thanks Donut!
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Magpie is perfect!! Only one who has great, instant affection for you would easily give you that moniker. I love your storytelling, the style and ease that makes me — the reader — feel included. You made me feel good by reading your story. Please keep ’em coming!!
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How did I get to be the age I am and not know of you sooner? A travesty of time. Thank you, Bren.This one’s for you!
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Marguerite, I’m still smiling, This essay of yours, like all others, comes across as effortlessly written. 🙂
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Your smile is as contagious as ever. Thank you my friend.
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Such a nice reminiscence, very finely realized. Seems like a such a different time. You really have a knack for the personal essay, McQ. Of that impressive litany of names, I think my faves are Willish and Smadge!
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My brother, Kit still calls me Willish, which has the last name of Millish. It’s very dear to me. As for Smadge, the younger brother of a colleague who’d just returned from Vietnam called me that from first meeting. We hung out for awhile in NYC before he flew the coop. Funny thing about nicknames – you never forget the people who gave them to you. Never ever.
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My brother, Kit still calls me Willish, which has the last name of Millish. It’s very dear to me. As for Smadge, the younger brother of a colleague who’d just returned from Vietnam called me that from first meeting. We hung out for awhile in NYC before he flew the coop. Funny thing about nicknames – you never forget the people who gave them to you.
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I like your blog. Names are such a funny thing. We rarely if ever have a word to say about what others call us. Sounds like you’ve had a lot of choices to go with. I see you as a Sparky. Something about that mischievous look in your eyes.
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That Sparky name is PERFECT Mary Anne, especially since my dog’s name is Sparky and I’m already trained to come when called. And you got my number on those eyes. Thanks for the nametag. I feel honored.
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Magpie suits you perfectly, Marge!
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It does, Daniels, doesn’t it? So glad you agree. Thanks for stopping by!
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Dear Magpie, I love this story. Although I only know you from your Facebook persona, I look forward to your comments. I look forward to reading many more in the year to come and hope you continue to contribute to your blog.
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I shall try not to disappoint you Helen. I look forward to your review of my words. Thanks for the encouragement and kindness.
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well done, McQ!
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Just between us redheads – your blog inspired me to take the leap Jeanne. I read every word of yours.
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I am touched and grateful. Keep up your wonderful sharings.
Happy New Year!
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Enjoyed your first blog..looking forward to many more.
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I so appreciate the vote of confidence Donna. Thanks!
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Love your ease of writing, and your humor. Great blog, my friend.
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Coming from you, that’s a slap on the back and a large bubble gum cigar that gives me the grins. Thanks Kieran!
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